I Want You To Kink Critically.
What the fuck does it mean to Kink Critically?
Kinking Critically:
The practice of actively thinking about how our kinky desires are not created in a vacuum, but are influenced by the world around us, the ideas we are taught, the relationships we have, and the shit we experience.
Kinking Critically asks us to—
Know ourselves
We are our first lovers and the oldest relationship we will ever have. Committing to knowing, exploring, and understanding what we want, need, and are driven by opens us up to have deeper, more vibrant relationships with others.
Get Curious
Okay, yes, this thing drives you absolutely wild and that’s why it’s your favorite kink, but why does it drive you wild?
When we know why we’re into something, it can expand our opportunities for whats and make negotiating play more open, relaxed and flexible.
Build Vulnerability
Knowing what you want is great, but asking for it?
Can be terrifying.
We live in a world where vulnerability gets shut down, framed as weakness, or made out to be too risky to try.
But when we know how to open ourselves up to others and honor them opening up to us—that’s where pleasure grows.
Practice Intention
Getting under the hood to understand what gets our engine running when it comes to sex and kink is not only healthy maintenance for our erotic lives.
Understanding what drives us erotically can give us clues to what we need and want—and how to show up for ourselves—in other aspects of our lives as well.