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Slap thine own ass, be thin own Daddy: Practicing Solo Kink

We don’t need to have lovers or play partners in order to explore our erotic landscape, but what does creating a D/s dynamic with ourselves look like? This class explores the fundamentals of nurturing our desires through building a solo play practice

Body Move It: Dance and movement for personal pleasure

Staying present and moving in ways that feel good to us helps create richer, more satisfying scenes. But temptations to perform desire in ways we hope are appealing can pull us out of actually feeling desire and pleasure. Our fears of looking silly or taking up too much space often block us from pleasure not just in kink and sex, but in the other realms of our lives. In this workshop, we’ll lean into discomfort and explore finding pleasurable movement by dancing for ourselves rather than for an audience. Participants will be encouraged to explore movement while sitting, standing, or even lying down We’ll focus on finding movement that feels right for your body and abilities. Hermes is an autistic facilitator and approaches this practice as a part of unmasking, and heavily encourages other neurodivergent folks to join them. Bring headphones and your own music playing device if you have it.

Tempo: Building and releasing tension for a bigger bang

Composing a powerful scene is a collaboration between dominant and submissive, composer and instrument. Part of that collaboration is finding the right rhythm, the building and release of tension that stokes the player’s anticipation of what is to come, and the judgment to know when the time is right for the climax. From edging, to fear play, to sadism, learning how to ramp up anticipation by playing with intensity can help make for longer, more satisfying scenes without overdoing anyone’s stamina. In this workshop, we’ll practice finding the key tension points to play with to build suspense and practice ratcheting up and releasing tension to build anticipation in a scene.

Yes, And: Kinky Edition:

Kink scenes are part planning and part improvisation. Negotiation gives us the tools and sketches out the sandbox, but how we play with them is shaped by our reactions to each other, the headspace we came into the scene with, and all the surprises that come with having a meatsuit. Regardless of which side of the slash we’re playing in, we can ruin our own good time by trying to stay “true” to the perfect scene in our head, rather than adapt to the scene unfolding around us. In this workshop, we’ll practice the art of rolling with things as they come, finding harmony with our play partners, and staying present in the moment. 

Get Down to Business: Using Kink as Motivation to Get your shit together

Things that are good for us also need to feel good to us if we hope to make them regular habits. From doing the dishes to filing our taxes, taking our medication on time and moving our bodies, we all have little things that slowly become big things as we scrounge for the motivation to do them and come up empty handed. So, why don't we lead with pleasure? Whether as part of a solo kinky practice or with partners, this workshop asks how we can incorporate kinky ritual into our daily routines in ways that make our lives easier and more pleasurable.

Tell me what you want what you really really want

Playing with others asks us to be open and vulnerable about the things that turn us on. But where do we begin if we haven’t ever shared certain desires with other people before? How do we start the conversation about shifts in our interests? What are ways to approach a play partner about a fantasy without putting expectations on them? In this workshop we’ll practice getting comfortable with discomfort, opening up space for conversation, and sharing our desires in ways that make them possible to play with.

Other classes I offer (an incomplete menu):

Kinking Critically Series:

These classes are specifically about building critical reflection skills around our desires and kinky practices. Our desires don’t spring out of nowhere, they are shaped by the world, values, and broader culture around us, our individual experiences and our relationships. Building pleasurable play spaces means being aware of what influences us and actively curating our desires. This series fosters self-knowledge, critical thinking skills, and exploration of personal values.

• Mapping the water around you

• Befriending our ghosts: Haunted House tour

• Healing or Hurting: Assessing your erotic practices

Everyday pervertables: Using household objects for mischief and pleasure

Negotiations 101: Setting Up the Scene

Molten heat: Introduction to Wax Play

This Sensual World: introduction to sensory play

Imitation knife play: how to get the edge without the bite

Build me up, buttercup: intro to edging